Is My Husband/Wife having an Affair?

There are an alarming number of people that are wondering if a husband or wife is having an affair. You might be wondering the same, is my husband or wife is cheating on me. In today's world, adultery is becoming even more common and even accepted, especially with websites existing to bring people together for affairs. On such websites, people actually advertise themselves as wanting to have an affair because they are unhappy in their marriage.

I realize that you may be frustrated as you read this article. I do apologize if this article makes you angry but by reading this I can offer the following information as a tool for you to use in determining whether or not a spouse is cheating. It might require some work on your part, but knowing if your spouse is having an affair is worth the work.

Appearance

It's common for a man or woman having an affair to alter his or her personal appearance. A new hairstyle, visiting the tanning salon, changing perfume, losing weight and even buying sexy underwear-these are commonly things that a woman would or could change. Washing the gray out, joining a gym, changing facial hair-these are commonly things a man will change. Now, just because you have begun to notice these changes in appearance does not mean your spouse is cheating; however it could be a warning sign.

Family Time

Insisting that the car seat not be left in the car or not wanting to drive to family’s minivan. If your husband or wife is having an affair they begin to lose interest in family activities such as sporting events that involve the children or for that matter family dinners. But then don’t be fooled when your spouse begins to bring home “guilt” gifts or plans extravagant vacations. The cheating spouse may begin to over compensate for having a guilty conscience.

Personal Relations

What does your schedule look like today? The girls and I are having drinks and no the husband aren’t invited or the fellas and I will be watching the game this weekend. The couple that had dates night once a week suddenly seems uninterested in their relationship. Conversations that were easy to come by are no longer. If we can’t even carry on a conversation--what about our sexual relationship? Sex between the cheater and spouse may increase or even decrease. He or she may request different kinds of sex-wanting to add another partner, toys or even visiting clubs for other couples. Or your cheating spouse may begin to do the complete opposite—not waiting to touch you at all.

Money Matters

When looking at credit card bills do you notice them containing unusual expenses, including jewelry, travel, cosmetic products, perfume, florist items and lingerie. I know what you’re thinking-my husband or wife is not that stupid. If your spouse is smart, he'll have lots of cash on him without good reason. You may notice an increase in ATM withdrawal or gas purchases. Pay attention to your accounts weather it is checking, savings or credit cards look for missing monies or large purchases.

Conclusion

Even if you have noticed a couple of these clues, it does not mean your husband or wife is having an affair. However, if you have that gut feeling and you are noticing other things-go for it and continue to investigate. With the following, "Exposing The Wayward Spouse", you will be able to figure out the signs of a cheating spouse and come up with your own answer to "...is my husband or wife having an affair?"

The Stages Of The Affair

There are basically four stages to the start of an affair. They are
bonding, secrecy, dating, and intimacy.

BONDING: In this stage, the participants basically start down the
slippery slope. At this stage of the game, they probably see each
other at work or the gym or maybe even after work with other coworkers
for a drink. They talk with each other and it all seems
innocent enough. However, as they get to know each other better,
they begin to talk more intimately and start growing closer. Soon,
emotional sparks start to fly and they are on their way.

SECRECY: The secrecy starts when the participants start to feel that
they are the only ones in the world that understand each other. They
stop telling others about their “friendship”. They no longer confide in
their spouse or their friends about this special relationship. They feel
that their situation is unique and shouldn’t be shared with anybody.
Feelings of love start to enter the picture.

DATING: Once the secrecy stage has been reached, they find more
and more reasons to go it alone. Just a cup of coffee, or a movie, or
maybe even a walk in the park. They justify this activity to
themselves because they are “just friends” or “just co-workers”.
Nothing is really going on so there isn’t an issue.

INTIMACY: The final step. Now they have crossed the line into a full
blown sexual relationship. The secrecy and deception surrounding
the relationship makes it all the more exciting. They are so blind to
the facts when they are with each other that they may be making
promises of commitment to each other. With no regard to their
families and those they love, they continue the affair, sometimes for
years, until they are caught or one of them breaks it off.

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An Emotional Affair

There are two types of affairs that your cheating spouse can be involved in. They are emotional affairs and physical affairs. Of course, there is the one night stand, but I don't consider that an affair. Sure, there were emotions and physical contact involved, but because it was only a night, I wouldn't call it an affair.

Today, I'd like to talk a little bit about emotional affairs. Obviously, an emotional affair is when your cheating spouse becomes emotionally involved with another person. But everybody does that, right? Sure, we all do. However, a cheating spouse will take this emotional relationship beyond what would be considered acceptable by most of society.

When your cheating spouse starts to share intimate details with the other person, it means that he has become emotionally attached to that person. He has built a trust that should be reserved for you. He shares details of your marriage, your sex life, and the other things that should be kept private between a husband and wife. He becomes attached to this new partner, relying on her, and allowing her to become a bigger and bigger part of his everyday life. Eventually, he will start complaining to her about you and everything you do wrong. He will begin to feel as though this new person is his souldmate.

So, how do you know if your spouse is involved in an emotional affair? Well, some cheaters are very good at hiding their feelings and covering up their actions. However, one thing is guaranteed...the more he becomes emotionally involved with the other person, the more he will withdraw from you. You will notice that he is no longer interested in talking to you about his day. He no longer complains about the stuff that used to really bother him. He spends less time with the kids. If you pay attention to these things, you'll figure it out.

It is important to note that, although many emotional affairs end up becoming physical, not all of them do. Don't accuse your spouse of cheating unless you have proof!

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Tom

Why Do They Cheat?

The inevitable question when you have a cheating spouse is always, "why?" You, of course, didn't see it coming at all. As far as you knew, everything was fine and you haven't done anything to give your spouse a reason to cheat. Yet, here you are, dealing with a situation that you didn't ask for and that you certainly didn't want.

Relax, you didn't have anything to do with it! Sure, there are problems in your relationship, but those were there before your spouse cheated. The bottom line is, nothing you've done is reason enough for your spouse to cheat on you. Your spouse cheats because of something that is missing in his or her life. The majority of cheaters have a real problem with self-esteem. Some others have an addiction to sex. Still others may have been abused as children or have some other underlying reason.

Regardless of the reason, rest assured that you are not to blame. You will be blamed. You will be tempted to take the blame or at least admit partial responsibility. DON'T DO IT! Again, you had nothing to do with it. Stand up for yourself and take charge of the situation. Once you discover the truth, you should be in charge. Don't be intimidated by your cheating spouse.

If you suspect that you have a cheating spouse and would like to know the signs to look for, read this article on Signs Of A Cheating Spouse. If you think your spouse is cheating but you want to get the evidence you need to prove it, visit my website at http://www.help-4-yourself.com/cheaters.

Avoid This Mistake If You Suspect Your Spouse Is Cheating

Ok, so we already know that the worst thing you can do if you suspect your spouse is cheating is to accuse without proof. However, there is something else that many betrayed people do that is just as damaging to their quest for the truth. They become whiny, or clingy, or they try too hard to make things good again. When you do this, the idea is to bring your partner back with kindness and love. Unfortunately, these actions usually have the opposite effect. That is, they drive the cheater further away.

You see, when you become (or appear to become) weak and wimpy, you are actually empowering your cheating spouse. They now have more control in the relationship and they start to feel as though you will put up with anything. This isn't what you want, is it?

What you should do is remain strong and show your ability to be independent. Don't whine, don't "try to do better", don't change anything. Your spouse having an affair has absolutely nothing to do with you. Sure, there are problems with your relationship, but those were there before your spouse decided to cheat. You didn't have anything to do with it. Don't give your spouse any power over you. Be your own person and stand up for yourself. You'll have the proof you need soon enough and you will realize that what I am telling you is true.

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Tom

The #1 Sign Of A Cheating Spouse

Almost invariably, the #1 sign of a cheating spouse is nothing more than a "gut" feeling. Your spouse may be doing a whole bunch of strange things, but if you don't "feel" that something is going on, you probably don't have anything to worry about. My cheating spouse didn't show many of the signs of a cheating spouse that are so common. It was not until I knew, in my gut, that something was going on that I started recognizing all of the other signs. That isn't the way that it works for everybody, but that's how it worked in my case.

Once I had the feeling, all of the other signs became clear to me. I started paying attention and keeping track of her lies and her mistakes. It didn't take me long to bust her once I started paying attention. But if I had never gotten that "gut" feeling, I may have never suspected her let alone catch her. So, if you've got a funny feeling that something is wrong or something is going on, do yourself a favor and start paying attention. Start looking for the other signs of a cheating spouse. Whatever you do, do not accuse your spouse of anything unless you've got solid proof. Doing so will only make matters worse. Take your time and be thorough. If you are in a hurry, go here: http://www.help-4-yourself.com/cheaters. The worst thing you can do is nothing. You do not have to put up with the lies and the disrespect. But if you do nothing, you deserve what you get.

What Is This Blog All About

Hello there,

Well, I think the name of the Blog pretty much explains what it's all about. If you have somehow found your way here, you are likely experiencing some signs of a cheating spouse. I've been there, done that. I've experienced a cheating spouse first hand and it was the most miserable time of my life. The lies and deception and emotional damage is just completely overwhelming. I scoured the Internet looking for answers. What are the signs of a cheating spouse? Why do they cheat? Is it my fault? You name it, I went through it. But it took a long time and it involved a lot of surfing. Some of the information I found was useless. Some of it was very good. In the end, I was able to get the proof and confront my cheating spouse with all the evidence I needed. Now, I'd like to somehow put together a one-stop solution for all those around the world that are suffering like I did. Those that suspect, but just don't know for sure. Hopefully, as you read here, you will get the tips and tricks you need in order to know for sure if your spouse is cheating.

If you suspect that your spouse is cheating, it is very important that you not do anything until you have proof. If you confront before you have proof, you will only make things worse and you will likely make it much more difficult to get the proof you need. Take your time and be thorough. Otherwise, you will be prolonging your agony.

If you are in a hurry and you want the answers right now, you can visit my website at http://www.help-4-yourself.com/cheaters. Otherwise, take your time and visit often and I'll update the blog with tips and tricks to help you through this.

See you tomorrow,

Tom