Is My Husband/Wife having an Affair?

There are an alarming number of people that are wondering if a husband or wife is having an affair. You might be wondering the same, is my husband or wife is cheating on me. In today's world, adultery is becoming even more common and even accepted, especially with websites existing to bring people together for affairs. On such websites, people actually advertise themselves as wanting to have an affair because they are unhappy in their marriage.

I realize that you may be frustrated as you read this article. I do apologize if this article makes you angry but by reading this I can offer the following information as a tool for you to use in determining whether or not a spouse is cheating. It might require some work on your part, but knowing if your spouse is having an affair is worth the work.

Appearance

It's common for a man or woman having an affair to alter his or her personal appearance. A new hairstyle, visiting the tanning salon, changing perfume, losing weight and even buying sexy underwear-these are commonly things that a woman would or could change. Washing the gray out, joining a gym, changing facial hair-these are commonly things a man will change. Now, just because you have begun to notice these changes in appearance does not mean your spouse is cheating; however it could be a warning sign.

Family Time

Insisting that the car seat not be left in the car or not wanting to drive to family’s minivan. If your husband or wife is having an affair they begin to lose interest in family activities such as sporting events that involve the children or for that matter family dinners. But then don’t be fooled when your spouse begins to bring home “guilt” gifts or plans extravagant vacations. The cheating spouse may begin to over compensate for having a guilty conscience.

Personal Relations

What does your schedule look like today? The girls and I are having drinks and no the husband aren’t invited or the fellas and I will be watching the game this weekend. The couple that had dates night once a week suddenly seems uninterested in their relationship. Conversations that were easy to come by are no longer. If we can’t even carry on a conversation--what about our sexual relationship? Sex between the cheater and spouse may increase or even decrease. He or she may request different kinds of sex-wanting to add another partner, toys or even visiting clubs for other couples. Or your cheating spouse may begin to do the complete opposite—not waiting to touch you at all.

Money Matters

When looking at credit card bills do you notice them containing unusual expenses, including jewelry, travel, cosmetic products, perfume, florist items and lingerie. I know what you’re thinking-my husband or wife is not that stupid. If your spouse is smart, he'll have lots of cash on him without good reason. You may notice an increase in ATM withdrawal or gas purchases. Pay attention to your accounts weather it is checking, savings or credit cards look for missing monies or large purchases.

Conclusion

Even if you have noticed a couple of these clues, it does not mean your husband or wife is having an affair. However, if you have that gut feeling and you are noticing other things-go for it and continue to investigate. With the following, "Exposing The Wayward Spouse", you will be able to figure out the signs of a cheating spouse and come up with your own answer to "...is my husband or wife having an affair?"