There are basically four stages to the start of an affair. They are
bonding, secrecy, dating, and intimacy.
BONDING: In this stage, the participants basically start down the
slippery slope. At this stage of the game, they probably see each
other at work or the gym or maybe even after work with other coworkers
for a drink. They talk with each other and it all seems
innocent enough. However, as they get to know each other better,
they begin to talk more intimately and start growing closer. Soon,
emotional sparks start to fly and they are on their way.
SECRECY: The secrecy starts when the participants start to feel that
they are the only ones in the world that understand each other. They
stop telling others about their “friendship”. They no longer confide in
their spouse or their friends about this special relationship. They feel
that their situation is unique and shouldn’t be shared with anybody.
Feelings of love start to enter the picture.
DATING: Once the secrecy stage has been reached, they find more
and more reasons to go it alone. Just a cup of coffee, or a movie, or
maybe even a walk in the park. They justify this activity to
themselves because they are “just friends” or “just co-workers”.
Nothing is really going on so there isn’t an issue.
INTIMACY: The final step. Now they have crossed the line into a full
blown sexual relationship. The secrecy and deception surrounding
the relationship makes it all the more exciting. They are so blind to
the facts when they are with each other that they may be making
promises of commitment to each other. With no regard to their
families and those they love, they continue the affair, sometimes for
years, until they are caught or one of them breaks it off.
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Sunday, February 10, 2008
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
An Emotional Affair
There are two types of affairs that your cheating spouse can be involved in. They are emotional affairs and physical affairs. Of course, there is the one night stand, but I don't consider that an affair. Sure, there were emotions and physical contact involved, but because it was only a night, I wouldn't call it an affair.
Today, I'd like to talk a little bit about emotional affairs. Obviously, an emotional affair is when your cheating spouse becomes emotionally involved with another person. But everybody does that, right? Sure, we all do. However, a cheating spouse will take this emotional relationship beyond what would be considered acceptable by most of society.
When your cheating spouse starts to share intimate details with the other person, it means that he has become emotionally attached to that person. He has built a trust that should be reserved for you. He shares details of your marriage, your sex life, and the other things that should be kept private between a husband and wife. He becomes attached to this new partner, relying on her, and allowing her to become a bigger and bigger part of his everyday life. Eventually, he will start complaining to her about you and everything you do wrong. He will begin to feel as though this new person is his souldmate.
So, how do you know if your spouse is involved in an emotional affair? Well, some cheaters are very good at hiding their feelings and covering up their actions. However, one thing is guaranteed...the more he becomes emotionally involved with the other person, the more he will withdraw from you. You will notice that he is no longer interested in talking to you about his day. He no longer complains about the stuff that used to really bother him. He spends less time with the kids. If you pay attention to these things, you'll figure it out.
It is important to note that, although many emotional affairs end up becoming physical, not all of them do. Don't accuse your spouse of cheating unless you have proof!
If you think your spouse is cheating and you'd like some help recognizing the signs, visit here. If you are in a hurry to catch your cheating spouse, you can get the information you need in order to prove it here.
Tom
Today, I'd like to talk a little bit about emotional affairs. Obviously, an emotional affair is when your cheating spouse becomes emotionally involved with another person. But everybody does that, right? Sure, we all do. However, a cheating spouse will take this emotional relationship beyond what would be considered acceptable by most of society.
When your cheating spouse starts to share intimate details with the other person, it means that he has become emotionally attached to that person. He has built a trust that should be reserved for you. He shares details of your marriage, your sex life, and the other things that should be kept private between a husband and wife. He becomes attached to this new partner, relying on her, and allowing her to become a bigger and bigger part of his everyday life. Eventually, he will start complaining to her about you and everything you do wrong. He will begin to feel as though this new person is his souldmate.
So, how do you know if your spouse is involved in an emotional affair? Well, some cheaters are very good at hiding their feelings and covering up their actions. However, one thing is guaranteed...the more he becomes emotionally involved with the other person, the more he will withdraw from you. You will notice that he is no longer interested in talking to you about his day. He no longer complains about the stuff that used to really bother him. He spends less time with the kids. If you pay attention to these things, you'll figure it out.
It is important to note that, although many emotional affairs end up becoming physical, not all of them do. Don't accuse your spouse of cheating unless you have proof!
If you think your spouse is cheating and you'd like some help recognizing the signs, visit here. If you are in a hurry to catch your cheating spouse, you can get the information you need in order to prove it here.
Tom
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Why Do They Cheat?
The inevitable question when you have a cheating spouse is always, "why?" You, of course, didn't see it coming at all. As far as you knew, everything was fine and you haven't done anything to give your spouse a reason to cheat. Yet, here you are, dealing with a situation that you didn't ask for and that you certainly didn't want.
Relax, you didn't have anything to do with it! Sure, there are problems in your relationship, but those were there before your spouse cheated. The bottom line is, nothing you've done is reason enough for your spouse to cheat on you. Your spouse cheats because of something that is missing in his or her life. The majority of cheaters have a real problem with self-esteem. Some others have an addiction to sex. Still others may have been abused as children or have some other underlying reason.
Regardless of the reason, rest assured that you are not to blame. You will be blamed. You will be tempted to take the blame or at least admit partial responsibility. DON'T DO IT! Again, you had nothing to do with it. Stand up for yourself and take charge of the situation. Once you discover the truth, you should be in charge. Don't be intimidated by your cheating spouse.
If you suspect that you have a cheating spouse and would like to know the signs to look for, read this article on Signs Of A Cheating Spouse. If you think your spouse is cheating but you want to get the evidence you need to prove it, visit my website at http://www.help-4-yourself.com/cheaters.
Relax, you didn't have anything to do with it! Sure, there are problems in your relationship, but those were there before your spouse cheated. The bottom line is, nothing you've done is reason enough for your spouse to cheat on you. Your spouse cheats because of something that is missing in his or her life. The majority of cheaters have a real problem with self-esteem. Some others have an addiction to sex. Still others may have been abused as children or have some other underlying reason.
Regardless of the reason, rest assured that you are not to blame. You will be blamed. You will be tempted to take the blame or at least admit partial responsibility. DON'T DO IT! Again, you had nothing to do with it. Stand up for yourself and take charge of the situation. Once you discover the truth, you should be in charge. Don't be intimidated by your cheating spouse.
If you suspect that you have a cheating spouse and would like to know the signs to look for, read this article on Signs Of A Cheating Spouse. If you think your spouse is cheating but you want to get the evidence you need to prove it, visit my website at http://www.help-4-yourself.com/cheaters.
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